Stress, Holidays, & WPV

by todaystrainingblog

We’ve all heard the news reports on CNN, FOX News, our local radio/television stations as well as the innumerable articles in the dwindling number of publications out there. Stress and the holidays! Be Careful! It’ll kill you! The stress is high over the holidays, I think we can all agree with that.
What with trying to find money to buy gifts, office parties (with the significant other and yours, as well as others, trying to decorate, finding time to do everything (sometimes it seems that time gets compressed and you can’t even find the time to breathe!). And then there is family and friends. As well as if you’re in the northern climes with snow and ice Yikes!
But the question is what does this have to do with workplace violence (WPV). Actually a lot. And much of it depends how well you handle stress of both a personal and professional nature. And of course how much time compresses for you and your family.
We’ve all heard the expression, especially around the holidays, “ARRGH, I could kill that guy!’. Not that we really mean it, but the stress gets to us and we want to explode at something…or someone. Therefore, that certain someone pushes out buttons in the wrong order one day and…
For some people, it’s just too much and they literally explode and take aggressive action against that certain someone. Whether that be a verbal dressing down or an actual assault, we won’t know until the fuse burns down to the powder.
And to be honest, it may not the person or objects that has been pushing the buttons and getting to the individual. It could be a random shopper in the mall who accidently nudges you and you stumble. Or it could be the clerk who has had a long and harried day. But whatever it is, you, or the individual is ready to explode. And sometimes you do.
Black Friday is a term that strikes fear in my life, therefore I ignore it and don’t go out. Besides recent studies have shown that the best deals don’t occur on Black Friday, but rather on the Wednesday BEFORE Thanksgiving!
So my advice to avoid WPV this time of year? Shop early and don’t fight everyone looking for a .99 cent television. Do your work, go home, have a shot of Glen Fiddich or wine (if you drink) and listen to some good music. Or if this doesn’t work for you do whatcha have to relax and ignore everyone else.
As I recently told a friend about stress and getting upset, she’s blind also, ‘you’ve got to let others hostility roll off your back. Like water rolls off a ducks back, you’ve got to let the anger and stress of others just run off your back. You’ll take less Tylenol!’ Learning what relaxing you and sticking to it will help you and your employees avoid incidents of WPV
Stay tuned for my yearly staying safe during the holidays. It’ll be coming up soon.

Robert D. Sollars is a recognized expert on workplace violence prevention and other security issues. With numerous interviews, blogs, articles, and 2 books he has proven himself in the security arena for more than 31 years, and 23 studying workplace violence issues.
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