Is it bullying or dedicated and driven?

by todaystrainingblog

May 10, 2013


Is it bullying or dedicated and driven?


                A key buzz word in business today is bullying. We think of bullying as only being in the school yard. Bloody noses, weaker younger kids, and those who are undersized is what we think of. But now bullying has come into the workplace. Or has it?

                Certainly there are adult bullies in this world. All you have to do is look at some the leaders of countries. North Korea comes to mind not to mention more than a few Arab and African countries. They are king of the hill and they act like it! And then there are the bullies in our lives as adults.

                There is no way that we can deny that we have run into bullies in our everyday lives as adults. One of the biggest that I remember is back in Missouri. Ken Rex McElroy. He was a bully in his small town of Skidmore. He bullied his way through life. He even bullied the sheriff’s department for most of his adult life. Stealing cattle, running scams, beating up on people, and then intimidating them into not testifying against him. He got his comeuppance one afternoon. 45 shots into his body in downtown Skidmore and no one saw anything.

                But co-workers and bosses can also be bullies at work as well. But how do you know if you’re boss or  yourself are being a bully or just dedicated and driven to succeed. Sometimes the difference is hard to notice and explain.


The Difference

                Either yourself or your boss can be driven and dedicated to success. And being driven and pressing hard to get the job done, right, can make you an easy mark for being labeled a bully.  But ask yourself these questions;

Do you berate or belittle co-workers when they do something wrong?

Do you participate in teasing over a physical or mental abnormality?

                Do you yell, scream, and constantly ‘ride’ your employees until they do what you want?

Do you talk to them or talk down to them?

Are you liked amongst your employees and peers?

Do you allow personal feelings and stress rule your attitude at work?

Do you threaten or intimidate to get what you want?


                If you answered yes to these questions you might actually be a bully. Most bullies will never admit that they are bullying someone. Keep in mind that most people who are bullies are doing so by intimidation and being bigger, meaner, and stronger than others around them. And they are enabled by management or their peers.


Being Dedicated

                So what is the difference between being a bully and dedicated/driven to success in your job? The following points may help differentiate the two. Look at the above list and compare them to this one;

Do you apologize when you are wrong? It doesn’t mean you’re a weak leader

Do you stop unnecessary teasing, especially if it goes on ad nauseum?

Do you talk to your employees on their level?

Do you treat them all the same (as humans and not chattel)?

Do you try to nurture their instincts and work abilities?

Do your employees know how you want the job done correctly?

Do you teach and coach instead of push and prod?

Are your employees knowledgeable about doing the job right?


                If you answered yes to these questions you are probably dedicated, driven, and press to get the job done right and not a bully. Keep in mind that you may be accused of being a bully and therefore you will have to defend everything you do and say or risk being disciplined or fired.

                Does a good manager have to bully employees at times? Sometimes you do in order to get them to do the right thing. But also remember that if you and your crew are ‘Sympatico ‘whatever you say needs to be done, they will jump in and do it efficiently and effectively.


                Sollars Security Shield can point you in the right direction of whether you’re a bully or not and assist you in writing the effective policies to address bullying in your workforce. Call 480-251-5197 or look at our website.